You graduate from high school and you figure you are done with the catty bullshit that comes from jr. high and high school. You're past that right? You are an adult. No one can make you feel bad about yourself anymore. WRONG! Since I've stayed home I have friended people I probably wouldn't have friended otherwise. People who are the complete opposite of myself politically, socially, and intellectually. On one hand it's been great to see how other people live, what they believe, and why they do so. On the other hand I find myself in situations that piss me off more than I should be.
When you have kids you learn the "rule of three" as soon as they are old enough to have play dates. For some reason two kids can get along and even 4 can, but 3 kids inevitably end up with 2 ganging up on or ignoring the third. But adults are too mature to be caught up in that, aren't they? No. No they are not. I am friends with two women right now whos kids are close in age to mine but for some reason they are closer to each other than they are to me. I try to not let it bother me but sometimes when neither one is answering her phone I get the feeling that they are together and just don't want me included. I'm sure your thinking I'm fucking nuts. I would have too before all this but I have been on the other side on it. I have been at one of their houses and the other calls and she ignores it. Which I'm sure you are thinking, "well then it's fair". But actually I have only been on the other side a few times whereas I think I'm the ignored one more often.
It's stupid and childish and I should be beyond this but it pisses me off! What the hell is wrong with me? They make more plans together too. Their husbands have this man crush on each other so they have dinner together where we have had dinner at each of their homes once. Their kids sleep over each others homes but no one has ever invited my kids. I know what you're thinking and no, my kids are not crazy hell hounds that no one wants around. My oldest is very mature and sweet, the one every teacher, camp counselor, or other parent has to stop me to tell me how sweet he is. I still have a hard time thinking what to say to that, it's not like I had something to do with it, he was just born that way. My youngest is a bit of an imp but would never pull with other people what he pulls with me. In fact one of my friends her kids are actually far more difficult than my kids could ever do. Her youngest one day was playing at my house and he snuck into my son's room and put on my son's clothes under his clothes to try to steal them. WTF is that!
I don't know, I'm sure I should be happy that my kids aren't being led astray by their kids but it sucks being left out as much as it did when you were in 7th grade. I think this is why I am trying to go back to work. I have this idea that working moms have less time for bullshit like this. Maybe I'm wrong and it's just as fucked up as stay at home moms but I need something to hang onto while I cry in my chardonnay.
Friday, July 31, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Letting Loose
I have been very careful with my writing on this blog up until now. I was reading some other blogs and came to the realization that I need to write like I don't care who's reading rather than worrying about if my friend will be offended or my husband will say something rude about it. Because really when you get right down to it, NO ONE IS READING MY BLOG BUT ME!!
I need to treat this more like diary, well a diary of a approaching 40, bitter house wife and mother who is quite sure that if she told everyone what was running through her mind they would run for the hills and take my kids with them.
Just yesterday I was sitting next to my friend's pool while my kids swam thinking I only reason I'm sitting there sweating my balls off is because then my kids will have something to tell my husband as proof for why it's o.k. I get to sit at home on my ass while he wakes up and goes to work everyday. It's the same reason I clear off the damn counter top and have some form of dinner in the microwave every night. The rest of the day I sit on facebook and watch Bravo or Style channel. Being home sucks, it's boring and no one gives a shit what you do and those holier than thou mothers (i.e. bitches) who tell you otherwise are lying their asses off or have had a lobotomy to bring their IQ down to the third grade level. No one, and I mean NO ONE enjoys playing legos with their kids.
Case in point, I have a friend who had both her kids do part time kindergarten as opposed to full time so she could, "spend time with them before they are in school forever". She then spends her days pawning her kids off on everyone else and her family so she can work out and be alone. I mean, why pretend? Just stick your kids in full time, stop trying to save face as mother of the year. It's bullshit.
I'm not sure why I chose to have kids when we were having a leave it to beaver revival but I kinda wish I had them when my mom did in the 70's, when it was o.k. to send your kids outside all day and not know where they were so you could drink and smoke in the house in peace.
I need to treat this more like diary, well a diary of a approaching 40, bitter house wife and mother who is quite sure that if she told everyone what was running through her mind they would run for the hills and take my kids with them.
Just yesterday I was sitting next to my friend's pool while my kids swam thinking I only reason I'm sitting there sweating my balls off is because then my kids will have something to tell my husband as proof for why it's o.k. I get to sit at home on my ass while he wakes up and goes to work everyday. It's the same reason I clear off the damn counter top and have some form of dinner in the microwave every night. The rest of the day I sit on facebook and watch Bravo or Style channel. Being home sucks, it's boring and no one gives a shit what you do and those holier than thou mothers (i.e. bitches) who tell you otherwise are lying their asses off or have had a lobotomy to bring their IQ down to the third grade level. No one, and I mean NO ONE enjoys playing legos with their kids.
Case in point, I have a friend who had both her kids do part time kindergarten as opposed to full time so she could, "spend time with them before they are in school forever". She then spends her days pawning her kids off on everyone else and her family so she can work out and be alone. I mean, why pretend? Just stick your kids in full time, stop trying to save face as mother of the year. It's bullshit.
I'm not sure why I chose to have kids when we were having a leave it to beaver revival but I kinda wish I had them when my mom did in the 70's, when it was o.k. to send your kids outside all day and not know where they were so you could drink and smoke in the house in peace.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Where did Summer go?
You might have heard or if you live in the northeastern portion of the US have witnessed the utter lack of summer-like weather. The news has stated that we are at least 10 degrees colder than last summer on average. Today and yesterday saw highs in the 60's. Now as a New Englander I am used to bad weather. We pride ourselves in being able to handle many drifts of snow with ease. Our schools don't need to close, we'll be plowed and snow-blowed out before the first bell! But we rely on a few things to help us through those difficult winters, one of those things being alcohol and the other is summer. When it starts to get warm most of us have sun burns because we are so unaccustomed to the sun. But we don't care, we need it. We need the light and warmth so we can deal with the darkness that seems to happen earlier and earlier in Fall.
When Summer hits we go full throttle, barbqueing every night, going to the beach every weekend, filling up on all those summer experiences. Typically by the end of August you get tired of tasting barbque sauce and look forward to something baked in the oven. So what are we to do when Spring seems to have happened in June and July? You know that Fall will still happen on time if not early. I'm hoping at least August will have enough hot weather that I'm willing to return to Winter otherwise I might just have to move to somewhere else. Anyone interested in a 2 story colonial?
When Summer hits we go full throttle, barbqueing every night, going to the beach every weekend, filling up on all those summer experiences. Typically by the end of August you get tired of tasting barbque sauce and look forward to something baked in the oven. So what are we to do when Spring seems to have happened in June and July? You know that Fall will still happen on time if not early. I'm hoping at least August will have enough hot weather that I'm willing to return to Winter otherwise I might just have to move to somewhere else. Anyone interested in a 2 story colonial?
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