Fathers Love

I'm watching last week's Oprah with Dr. Phil. There is a woman whos father is a serial killer. She took her children to meet him in jail. It is apparent that Oprah is horrified that she would do that and does not understand. My own father was not a serial killer but an alcoholic. My mother has since remarried to a nice man but he will NEVER be my father. It was very nice of him to pay for my wedding but that does not make him my father. I understand when people state how a step parent is their real parent for their actions but there is something primal and true when the person is your biological father. My father has since died and I had thought there would be time. There wasn't.

It is hard to be a good parent but it's also quite easy. All you have to do is be there most of the time. You don't need to know everything, you don't need to buy anything, you don't need to be perfect. It makes me angry because my father could have done it. Relationships are so complex. I know people are human but you know what people, grow up. Do it. It's the most important thing you will ever do.