Where's My Back Up?

I think of myself as a pretty good listener. People call me with their problems and I do my best not to project myself into them and be a good sounding board. I am a counselor by trade so I really try to make people feel better. Lately I've been noticing that I don't seem to get the same treatment from my family and friends. I have a relative who calls me every couple months to help her find a job. It's always an emergency and I have to not only help with writing resumes and cover letters but I have to build her self confidence up in the process. She is always talking about how she doesn't have a career and isn't good at anything. I have to do my best to make her feel better and get her ready even though I know that in another couple of weeks she will decide that she doesn't want to miss her children's childhood and that they are only young once and she wants to be there for them.

I called her a week ago in the middle of a medical emergency with my youngest and she basically shoved me off the phone because her husband was there and she can't be bothered to talk with me when he's there. I called her today to vent about a woman on the phone who was REALLY rude to me and she was defending her! A stranger who was nasty to me for no reason at all and she was saying, "well at least she works and isn't on welfare!" WTF! She doesn't know this person, I am obviously upset, she can't just make me feel better?

I'm tired of being there for others and having them let me down when I need someone. Is it that hard to say, "I'm sorry that sucks!" I am tired of emotionally draining people. If you want me to feel bad for your life then you need to back me up occasionally. Until then I think my phone will be on mute.